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I'm the 4 yr olds nanny. I do not think the books are appropriate and will not read these books to the kids.
The books are hunting books. One is the rifle and the 3 bears. The kid in the book kills a bear for a rug for his bed and war sausage.
Other book is killing animals is Africa and other one is killing deer.
The boy just turned 4. Would you buy these books for a 4 yr old? And is it wrong I won't read these to him?
I'm against hunting especially animals is Africa.
Above Should Say BEAR not War.
I put the books away. He got several of the books for his bday. 2 of them are appropriate and about 5 are not. I wouldn't even get these type of books for a elementary age kid.
Makes me so frustrated an mad. Kids should love all animals an enjoy looking at them and playing with them not learning to kill. : (
They have tons of other books with animals that are good.
Richa- I agree. It still bothers me an I need to let it go. Bothers me cause I'm a huge animal lover and this lil boy is very sensitive. He gets scared watching some tinker bell movies, anything really not for kids older then 2-3. He is 4. Anyway.
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I don't think that's appropriate for a 4 year old and I understand why you won't read them. Try to introduce them to animal loving books instead. Get books about how people should care for animals instead. I recommend somewhat interactive books to keep them interested.
I don't think that's appropriate for a 4 year old and I understand why you won't read them. Try to introduce them to animal loving books instead. Get books about how people should care for animals instead. I recommend somewhat interactive books to keep them interested.
Do you have book suggestions for positive training discipline for 4 yr old?
YesIDid
Please give book name and author if you have it.
Also, why did this book work for your family?
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It wasn't a book, but I did go through a parenting class through the local elementary school. The program was Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP).
It has been twenty years since I took the program, but the lesson that stuck longest was a good one: let the consequence reflect the problem. I have heard parents say things like "My daughter doesn't do her homework because she talks on the phone all night instead, so we are taking away her allowance." He allowance has nothing to do with the telephone unless she's using it to pay the phone bill. Let the consequence reflect the problem. If she is using the telephone to the point it interferes with school work, prohibit her from using the phone or take her cell away from her for a specific time. Leaving the bike in the driveway? Simple consequence - No use of the bike for a given time. Won't wear his coat? LET HIM GET COLD. (Not to a point where he is in danger, of course, but when he reports being cold, you say, "Remember that you can trust me. If I suggest you will need a coat, it is because I love you and I know something about the weather. I brought it with me. You'll have to be cold until I can get it from the car. Would you like to go with me?" That last one is hard, because we want to protect our kids from "everything." Sometimes, though, letting them take the consequences is the best way to get them to learn to listen to us! The world is less arbitrary if the consequences are related to the action, positive or negative. Let's say the child gets up, gets ready for the day, and the family gets out of the house on time. Tell the child you appreciate his cooperation, and since you have time, you are not stressed out. Perhaps he'd like to pick a song to play on the CD for the drive to pre-school. Instead of a lecture for being late, your child has a chance to be praised for doing well, a chance to feel proud, and a chance to see good consequences for good acts.
I'll see if I can find any of the materials, and add them in an edit if I come across them.
Edit - http://www.lifematters.com/step.asp
http://www.steppublishers.com/
http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Young-Children-Systematic-Effective/dp/0785411895
The first two are workshops. The last is a book.
It wasn't a book, but I did go through a parenting class through the local elementary school. The program was Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP).
It has been twenty years since I took the program, but the lesson that stuck longest was a good one: let the consequence reflect the problem. I have heard parents say things like "My daughter doesn't do her homework because she talks on the phone all night instead, so we are taking away her allowance." He allowance has nothing to do with the telephone unless she's using it to pay the phone bill. Let the consequence reflect the problem. If she is using the telephone to the point it interferes with school work, prohibit her from using the phone or take her cell away from her for a specific time. Leaving the bike in the driveway? Simple consequence - No use of the bike for a given time. Won't wear his coat? LET HIM GET COLD. (Not to a point where he is in danger, of course, but when he reports being cold, you say, "Remember that you can trust me. If I suggest you will need a coat, it is because I love you and I know something about the weather. I brought it with me. You'll have to be cold until I can get it from the car. Would you like to go with me?" That last one is hard, because we want to protect our kids from "everything." Sometimes, though, letting them take the consequences is the best way to get them to learn to listen to us! The world is less arbitrary if the consequences are related to the action, positive or negative. Let's say the child gets up, gets ready for the day, and the family gets out of the house on time. Tell the child you appreciate his cooperation, and since you have time, you are not stressed out. Perhaps he'd like to pick a song to play on the CD for the drive to pre-school. Instead of a lecture for being late, your child has a chance to be praised for doing well, a chance to feel proud, and a chance to see good consequences for good acts.
I'll see if I can find any of the materials, and add them in an edit if I come across them.
Edit - http://www.lifematters.com/step.asp
http://www.steppublishers.com/
http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Young-Children-Systematic-Effective/dp/0785411895
The first two are workshops. The last is a book.
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